Happiness My butt

I thought when I met my husband that I had met the man of my dreams, and that we would have a happy life together. We would get married and have kids, and we would BOTH be so happy about everything. Man when did I fall into a naive childish state? We have been together for 4 years, married for 3 years. It has not been easy. I am married to a man who is 6 years younger than me and is in the Navy. I know that the Navy always comes first but it is getting a bit old. Right this second the thing that amazes me the most is the fact that he is a Naval Officer and cannot handle me yelling or fussing at him. He is in the military. He went to the Naval Academy where he was yelled at on a daily basis. But when I let him know that he hurt me, pissed me off, or let me down he cannot handle it. He goes nuts, goes off on me, cusses me out, he throws a tantrum like a child all the while spinning the tables on me blaming me. Then he accuses me of doing all the things that he is doing.
I am 4 1/2 months pregnant. I am stressed out as it is. I do not need my husband acting like a child, I'm 34 with 1 on the way. I have had to be mature, and start acting like a parent since the day we found out. But not him he gets to do whatever he wants and it's ok.
We have been fighting a lot since I found out I was pregnant. We fought quite a bit before but it's a lot worse. I think the most we go is 2 days without a fight. I cannot move to MD to be with him even if I wanted to. The biggest problem I have is that there is so much that needs to be done around our house and I am unable to do any of it due to being pregnant.  But every chance he gets he is off helping other people with their houses. Then complains to me bout calling him when he is busy. He is busy working on other people's houses instead of his own. He never stops to think how that makes me feel. Of course not.

So again happiness my butt